The Parable of Jurassic Park

Have you ever watched Jurassic Park? The dinosaurs are fed by mechanical devices. The stick the cow right in the midst of the velociraptors, they attack and eat to the cow. They're good little hunters, don't get me wrong. But because someone is providing the food, they get lazy. 

My roommate compared this to guys on the single scene. We live in an age whe women have achieved some idea of equality. We can have jobs, be directors (not just secretaries anymore), and do all these amazing things. And sometimes, we act that way in a dating world. We say, "I go toe-to-toe with this type of guy at work, I totally can make him like me" or whatever. 

Or we are so focused on winning or getting into a relationship because that's what you're supposed to do, that we start throwing ourselves, or at least stop being a challenge.

I don't mean being an obnoxious challenge where we string guys along.But we agree to go on dates when they call Friday morning to see if we can go out that night. Sure, we may not have plans, but why are we giving them this chance?

Yes, it's not fun to have to sit back and wait for him to step up to the plate. So, here are a few suggestions that I have:

1. Plan a girls' night.

Play games. Do your thing. Paint your nails. Enjoy this time with the girls. Go out to dinner. Really? How often do you enjoy your time with your girlfriends? 

2. If you really want him to ask you out, next time you're talking to him suggest an activity that you should do together "sometime".

If he doesn't respond or doesn't take the blatant hint—move on. Forget about him. If he doesn't make the effort, he's not worth it. 

This rule goes for most anything. Encourage him, give him an open door, but if he doesn't take action there's no reason for you to do so. Maybe you'll disagree with me and tell me to ask a guy out once in awhile. I have found that it never works well. 

3. Enjoy what you do.

This has been difficult for me lately. Trying to accept the fact that I'm reaching a milestone in seven months and I'm still single unnerves me slightly. I'm learning to make plans based on my more immediate needs. But focus on the good things in your life. It's okay to have moments of sadness. But try hard not to worry about those.

So, remember, ladies—don't be like the keepers at Jurassic Park who just throw food out for those raptors. Let them be who they really are—hunters. Just be ready to open the door for them.